Paediatricians responsible for neonatal care have been increasingly involved in, and aware of, the importance of parent infant interactions. These interactions are of major importance when concerned with the dying newborn. Over the past few years parental involvement in decision making related to life and death of newborn babies is becoming increasingly accepted ... more and more parents are opting to take their baby home to die. As changing patterns of birthing increasingly involve fathers and children, so death is once again becoming a family affair.